Want to spend more time with my stepdad but he doesn’t seem to value our relationship


DEAR DEIDRE: I IDOLISE my stepdad but he won’t take me out for the day by himself. I enjoy spending time together, just the two of us, as we get on great.

I’m a 15-year-old girl and an only child. I don’t have a good relationship with my biological dad.

 I idolise my stepdad and want to spend more time with him but he just doesn't make the effort

I idolise my stepdad and want to spend more time with him but he just doesn’t make the effort

I keep asking my stepdad to take me out but he always says the three of us will go.

It really upsets me. I always tell him he’s the best father I could ever ask for but he never says I’m like a daughter to him.

He never tells me he loves me either. He just says he’s not my dad and that I already have a dad.

DEIDRE SAYS: It’s great that you have a good relationship with your stepdad. He may not feel confident spending one-to-one time with you, though, because he’s worried it may be misunderstood.

I think part of this is your neediness because of what feels like your biological father’s rejection.

Tell your mum how you feel. Your stepdad is more likely to respond if he knows she is happy about it.

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