A MUM has revealed the phrase that her husband says that makes her blood boil – and other women agree it makes them furious too.
The woman, who moaned about her lazy husband, said that she hates it when he says to her: “If you want me to do something, just tell me.”
And her gripe seemed to strike a chord with other wives, who also spoke of their anger when their partners say the same thing.
The mum started the debate on Mumsnet, where she explained why her husband infuriates her when he says it.
She explained: “Basically this phrase means to me that he doesn’t ever take the initiative to plan or think about what needs doing and that I’m apparently in charge of everything around the house and he’ll do something if I ‘delegate’ it to him but otherwise won’t think to do it.
“Why do I always have to be the one that thinks about what needs doing domestically?
“He’s 36 and not an idiot FFS. Surely he can take some responsibility for thinking sometimes about what needs to be done sometimes without me having to specifically ask?”
“I know I’m lucky that he will do stuff if I ask him to do it which is better than some men, but I just find it so irksome that it’s never off his own back. He always has to be asked to do something.”
And her rant set off a stream of other mums complaining about the exact same phrase.
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One said: “Do we have the same husband? I flipped at this when our twins were a few months old and he got the message slightly…. very slightly.
“It’s not like he doesn’t help but I’m sick of being the one who has to be in control of what needs doing and when.”
Another mum wrote: “DH (dear husband) is the same. Has a really detailed, has to be precise job but fails to see the bl**dy obvious once he walks through the front door.
“I like to have little bets with myself about how long his washing pile will stay on the landing before he puts it away, how many days his post will sit on the stairs before he opens it, stuff like that.”
One mum added: “Honestly, just what goes on in the heads of these people, many of whom are perfectly capable in their jobs without being told what to do?”
While another said: “Infuriating! Definitely the mental load as pointed out. Women still have themselves, all the kids, school, work and house in their heads. Men have them and their work.”
But despite the woman getting support from most of the other mums on the forum, one admitted she didn’t like her husband doing jobs around the house.
She explained: “The house is mine mine mine! He is great at his job, lovely with the kids – but he has a s**t eye for what makes a home or a good parent. I’m the family director.
“I planned to be this way my whole life – parent and homemaker.”
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