Boyfriend wants me to sleep in room with his male friends despite knowing my rape trauma past

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DEAR DEIDRE: MY boyfriend says I have to sleep on the floor of his mate’s hotel room when we go to a christening next month but I don’t feel safe.

I was raped three years ago and feel so unsafe around any men after what happened.

 My boyfriend is so insensitive about feeling scared around men after being raped in the past

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My boyfriend is so insensitive about feeling scared around men after being raped in the past

Four of us, including two of his friends, are supposed to be crashing in this hotel room but I know I can’t sleep in the same room as them.

The hotel is fully booked and my boyfriend doesn’t want to book a room anywhere else as he doesn’t want to miss out on partying.

I’m 22 and my boyfriend is 23. I’m beginning to think I should just stay away from the christening and leave him to have time with his mates.

DEIDRE SAYS: It is clear that your boyfriend hasn’t understood the impact the rape has had on you – either that or he simply doesn’t care.

Contact Rape Crisis for understanding support (rapecrisis.org.uk, 0808 802 9999).

I’d leave your boyfriend to his weekend with his mates – if he doesn’t understand, then perhaps he’s not right for you.


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